My Precious Grandchildren I love and Miss You All

My precious grandchildren! How I love you boys so much!

My grandchildren! How i miss and love you boys so very much. It’s not a day or night that goes by, that I don’t think about you all and miss all of you. My grandsons! I want you all to know that I have not given up hope! I am still here for you grandchildren! Also my grandsons I want you all to know that I do want you boys and that I have a large enough home for all of you. It’s filled with every for all of you. I moved from Nevada for the love that I have for all of you.

My grandsons! Oklahoma has fought me every step of the way in getting you boys out of the system. From the judge on down has denied me the rights to visitation with all of you. I’ve been denied adoption, visitation rights, as well as a home study of the 3 bedroom, 2 bath, 2 car garage home, that’s over 2,000 square feet.

I also want you boys to know that I have been writing continuously to all of you. I hope and pray that you all have been getting all the letters that I have been sending. I love all of you so very much. I send my love, hugs and kisses. My grandsons I love you and I want you to know that you have family that loves and misses you as well. I pray for our family on a regular basis!

Melvin, Michael, Mizael, Teriq and Eric! My dear and precious grandchildren I your grandmother, loves,misses and wants you all home with me. I am financially established, and has more than enough room for all of you boys! Speaking on you all as siblings! Have you all seen each other lately?

The reason why you grandchildren are home is because of the Oklahoma DHS/ foster care unit. It’s because of the corruption and crookedness that is going on in that organization. Also I want you boys to know that the Oklahoma DHS has told lies in court and on their paperwork, stating that I have a felony from a food stamp case when i was 19 years old, some 30 years ago! That is false, my grandsons! So anyhow, Oklahoma continues to deny me you grandchildren to come live with me because of that! I have proof of that! That I don’t have a felony! For one they could check my military record. But they won’t! Oklahoma just don’t want me to have you all.

Grandsons! I want you all to know that Oklahoma has even tried to put me in jail and was trying to give me a hefty fine! Oklahoma has done us wrong in processing this case of you grandchildren! I want all of you to know that Oklahoma has treated you grandchildren wrong by not letting you boys have visitation with me. Also that they have violated our rights too.

I have on several occasions went to the Oklahoma State Capitol to talk to the folks at the Office. I have went to any and everyone that would listen to our story at how Okdhs/ Oklahoma DHS, how they have treated us and not giving you all to me. How they are just letting you children float in the system, bouncing from one placement to the other.

I continue to write letters to the DHS officials, to the Judge, to the Oklahoma governor, and everyone else that is interested in the foster care system and those interested in the children of the system. My grandsons, I haven’t forgotten about you all. I love you with every ounce of blood that’s flowing through my body. I love you my precious grandchildren.

My grandchildren I am so sorry that you have had to be subjected to this type of life! I feel your pain and suffering. My prayers go out to all of you. I love you boys so much! My grandchildren you are loved, wanted and missed. You have a home to come to. Oklahoma has denied my many requests for you grandchildren to be released to me in my care! Oklahoma are the reason! Oklahoma DHS is the reason why you grandchildren remains in foster care. Oklahoma never did work with me to get you all home! Not any type of help what so ever!

 Grandsons! I love you all and you all are always in my thoughts and prayers. I send my love, hugs and kisses! Grandma! loves all of you so very much.

As I close I ask everyone to please keep me and my grandchildren in prayer, as we are going through a very difficult time in our lives. Please pray for us that we be a family again soon. Thank you very much and God Bless You and Yours!

Loving, caring and grieving Grandmother

Farina Thompson

Children in Foster Care in The State of Oklahoma

Nov 15 2011

This is the case of my precious grandchildren:

The May, Davis, Benjamin, Walker — Case# JD-06-180

My grandchildren has been in the Oklahoma Foster Care System since March 2 2006. Oklahoma will not let me visit with my 5 grandsons. I have not seen my grandsons since 2.16.2010. It is a shame at how the state’s government agency are treating the children.

Isn’t it proper for the family to get the children? I am not a felon. I am a registered voter. I have my own finances. I don’t need any tax payers hard-earned money to raise and take care of my grandchildren.

I have a 3 bedroom, 2 bath, 2 car garage home. It’s over 2,000 sq feet. I have plenty of food. I love my grandsons with everything in my heart. My grandsons are loved, wanted and missed.

Oklahoma will not give me a home study! I moved here to Oklahoma from Nevada. I just want my grandsons out of the system. This is wrong!

There has been so much wrong that has went on with this case, no one would believe it. You’d have to be present in that court room! You’d Shake Your Head in Disbelief!

Ok! It’s been over 5 years now, that my grandsons has been floating around in the Oklahoma foster care system! Medicated! Alienated! and Isolated! This is an injustice! This is Dirt!

I have been on the Oklahoma Fox 25 News several times. I’ve written letters to quite a few State Officials only to get in return, those generated sorry we can’t help you letters. You know the kind where they just brush you off, as if you don’t matter.

I continue to write letters to everyone in regards to the DHS case, concerning my grandchildren. How Oklahoma DHS has treated this case. How they are deliberately denying me my grandchildren. When I have everything in place and ready for inspection, to prove that I am in compliance to get qualified to be approved by the state to take in my grandsons.

5 years and 8 months and counting! Because my grandchildren are home yet!

My grandsons don’t need or deserve to be suffering in the foster care system, when they have their maternal and biological grandmother that loves, and want them home. I’m willing and able to do just that.

Oklahoma DHS are deliberately and intentionally keeping my grandchildren away from me. No matter what they say their reasons are before the Judge! There isn’t a good enough reason to keep me and my grandchildren apart. No! There just isn’t!

Too me! Plain and simple it’s an unprofessional measure, that shouldn’t be allowed at all. My grandsons are suffering. This is truly devastating! Things need to change!

My only contact with my grandchildren are through letter writing only. I’m not even sure if my grandsons are receiving the letters that I’m sending them! I don’t know. I just don’t know!

I don’t hear from my grandchildren! DHS has rejected me visiting with my grandsons. They have opposed and denied me every single thing!  DHS has denied me everything! I haven’t heard my grandsons voices, in over a year and a half, nearly 2 years ago, since 2.16.2010.

Reunification is the KEY! or so I thought?, Keeping the family together was the purpose! Or it should be. I thought it was, anyway. In The Best Interest Of The Children! And then there is that– This is the lie I love……. This is what I always heard when I was in court…….. Judge! Reasonable Effort Has Been Made To Place The Children, But? There’s the But!!!!! Just listening to that crap was full of deviousness and vengeance.

Having everything, that I have mentioned for my grandchildren! What else is there that I need? Look! I’m not a felon, never been to prison. I mean come on! All these folks here needed to do was check my military record! Check my college record! They, I’m talking about Oklahoma DHS, just has it set out to don’t give me my grandchildren. That’s wrong as two left shoes!

Children! Don’t need to suffer like this. My grandsons! They have been traumatized and  damaged because of this states negligence.

My grandsons have had nearly a dozen case workers if not more. They have been moved about so many times, till I can’t keep count. I’ve some grandsons that are in group homes, that are moved about as much as the other children in foster homes. Everyone of my grandchildren are in separate placements now! They have been in the Oklahoma Foster Care System since March 2 2006.

Oklahoma DHS continues to inform me that they plan on adopting my 5 grandsons out. That I don’t have any rights to my grandchildren what so ever! No visitation! No nothing!

Just recently I wrote letters to the Judge and the County Director, asking for my grandchildren sizes in everything, so that I could buy them some clothes! Because I still want to be included in my grandsons lives. I was thinking, that my grandsons will be able to touch something, that their grandmother had bought them. I’m thinking of everything! I just want to be included in my grandsons lives.

How can this be legal for these actions against a love-one, family member, a maternal & biological grandmother? How can this be of legal actions? Isn’t it about the children? To get them out of the foster care system as soon as possible, with less traumatization as possible?

I’m responsible, reliable, mature, loving & nurturing grandmother! My actions and effort proves that I am not satisfied with how this State of Oklahoma has handled and processed this DHS/CPS Foster Care Case. This is totally unprofessional and unethical! Policies and Procedures has been over looked.  Common Sense and of course the Law. The Legal Guide Lines, I’m sure they have broken a dozen or so Laws, that they shouldn’t have.

Because of all of this my grandsons are continuing to suffer. This has not been easy on them or me for that matter.

I pray on a continuous basis for our family to be a family again. That we will be reunited! That my grandchildren will be out of this misery, pain and suffering and be back in their Grandma’s loving arms.

Look at what the Oklahoma DHS has done to my grandsons self-esteem! My babies, what they are having to deal with? A child’s self-esteem shouldn’t be toyed with at all, period. Especially! like they -DHS  are doing and have done to my grandkids.

I am very much concerned about this! I am so worried about my grandsons, No one can even come close to what  I am feeling! What I have been through and are going through!

I am getting the word out there, for everyone to know what’s going on here in the State of Oklahoma.  This state has done what it wanted to- to me! The Judge he let them do it! Instead of the Judge ruling against the Oklahoma DHS, he ruled in favour of the Oklahoma DHS, continuing to keep my grandsons in the system and away from me, bouncing them from one placement to the next.

We have been treated unjustly! My grandsons case will  not be kept quiet or swept under the carpet! My grandsons are in the system and away from their love-ones and family. I will not be quiet on this matter. My grandsons have family. They are loved, wanted and missed. My grandsons are not forgotten! NOT FORGOTTEN!!

I am asking everyone to please pray for me and my grandchildren. Because we are going through such a difficult time in our lives right now.

Your prayers are truly appreciated. Thank you and God Bless You and Yours.

A Grieving Grandmother That’s full of pain and suffering, That’s determined to not give up on her grandchildren.

Farina Thompson

 

 

 

65 Months And Grandchildren Still Aren’t Home

65 months and my grandchildren still remains in the Oklahoma Foster Care System floating around from placement to placement.

Since 3-2-2006, my precious grandchildren have been in the Oklahoma foster care system.  They have been alienated from our family.  I haven’t seen my grandsons since 2-16-2010. Haven’t heard their voices.  Yet the court seems, this is in the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD!

How can family alienation be of good measure?

Foster Care isn’t good for any children. It has to be a better way than this. The folks involved in dividing and separating the children from their families and alienating on a continuous basis have no morals or ethical guide lines what so ever.

My precious grandsons has been alienated from our family for over 5.5 years. They were taken on 3-2-2006. Since they have been in foster care, we have not had any regular visitation. This is wrong! This isn’t right! What about the children who needs their family?

The Judge- Judge Richard W Kirby,  Tara Bone – DHS,  Asst DA- Jane Brown, Asst PD- Ryan Hauser and DHS Director- Howard Hendrick, they all should be HELD ACCOUNTABLE for their part in alienating my grandchildren and continuing to inflict pain upon them, by keeping them in the system for as long as they have.

The judge has denied my request to order DHS to do a home-study of my home inorder to adopt my 5 grandsons. The judge has dismissed me from any future court hearings in regards to my grandchildren’s case, at the request of DHS. The Judge granted the request. This was done on 2-8-2011.

My grandchildren are suffering in foster care. Being shipped, shuffled and shafted from one placement to the next. That’s terrible! It’s emotional for the children. I feel my grandchildren pain. I am right there with them.

This is an injustice! An investigation should be launched into the practice of how a judge and dhs handles these cases. This isn’t right at all and these folks are getting away with how they are treating the children and families.

DHS are supposed to be hleping the children and families? Right? Not inflicting damage or traumatizing the children even more! This system is broken.

My grandchildren has been in the foster care system since MARCH 2 2006. The State refuses to work with me to return my 5 grandsons.

I’ll say it again, that: The Judge- Judge Richard W Kirby,  Tara Bone – DHS,  Asst DA- Jane Brown, Asst PD- Ryan Hauser and DHS Director- Howard Hendrick, they all should be HELD ACCOUNTABLE for their part in alienating my grandchildren and continuing to inflict pain upon them, by keeping them in the system for as long as they have.

This is the State of Oklahoma, City of Oklahoma City, County of Oklahoma.

CASE# JD-06-180, CASE NAME- MAY, DAVIS, BENJAMIN, WALKER, MOTHER- JAMIRA N MAY-MCCOY. DATE CHILDREN WERE TAKEN- MARCH 2 2006.

Foster Care isn’t right for any child. Foster Care destroys children, they enter one way and then they are transformed. It’s the foster care system. It’s no good.

How can it be any good, For when I’ve been fighting for the longest to get my grandsons back home.

I have relocated from Nevada. I have a 3 bedroom, 2 bath, 2 car garage home. It’s over 2,000 square feet. I am not a felon, I’m a veteran, I have everything that’s needed to taken care of my 5 grandsons. Roof over their head and beds for each and every one of them. A Refrigerator full of food.  I’ve a washer and dryer. I MEAN! WHAT’S THE PROBLEM? ISN’T IT ABOUT THE CHILDREN?

65 MONTHS ! COME ON, NOW! IT’S CORRUPTION HERE IN THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA IN THE DHS FOSTER CARE SYSTEM AND THE JUDGE OVER MY GRANDSONS CASE. JUDGE RICHARD W KIRBY.

PLEASE PRAY FOR ME AND MY PRECIOUS GRANDCHILDREN AS WE ARE SUFFERING, HURTING AND HAS BEEN SEPARATED FOR QUITE SOME TIME. PLEASE PRAY FOR THEIR SAFE RETURN SO WE CAN MOVE ON WITH OUR LIVES. WE NEED CLOSURE.

Thank You and God Bless.

A grieving grandmother

 

 

Jamira N May- Mother forced to relinquish her parental rights

My daughter Jamira May, a young woman released from prison, dealing with Oklahoma DHS was driven to relinquish her parental rights. From the hands of the Oklahoma DHS case workers and Oklahoma DHS DA as well as the childrens’ attorney, caused my daughter to relinquish her parental rights by imposing such strict  requirements of her to get her children out of foster care. Due to the demands made on her and considering what she was facing, meaning her felonies that she has on her, it made it hard for her to get employment, housing and fully established enough to get her children. So with that mention, that’s where i come in and be there for my daughter to help her and my grandbabies and get them out of the foster care system. After all Isn’t that what we grandparents do?

Or so we thought! In the real world it would have worked,  unfortunately in the courtroom the folks denied that and refused to let Jamira return home with the children, because of that my daughter relinquished her parental rights to her sons and now she is no longer apart of the case. That took place 9/15/2009.

I am the maternal and biological grandmother, and i am doing what i can to save my family, these boys, my babies, are my blood and i love them as well as the whole family love them very much.

It’s the Family Unit and we deserve to live in peace without interruption. Yet the government, has allowed the DSS/ DHS/ FSS/DCFS- it goes by so many different names across the united states so whatever the name is in your part of the country, anyway the government are actually the ones behind the family being destroyed.

I have been going to court continuously on a regular basis. It hasn’t gotten any better. The people of the court and the staff are there to just do their job. What i am saying is typically, It’s not for reuniting the children with the families. In my grandsons case it is a racial thing going on toward me. Our civil rights and human rights has been violated.

Until January 2010 there was never a court approved visitation order for me to visit with my grandchildren. It took a month after that to get our family visit. My babies have been alienated from our family visits. Our family visits were stopped by Tara Bone, which she is the original case worker from back in 2006.

The family unit is truly valued. At least for some of us it is a way of life for us. To enjoy our family, children, grandchildren and friends. A family unit isn’t meant to be destroyed. God made it!  It’s puzzling at how these individuals here in this state of Oklahoma has ignored the true value of family and it’s foundation. Yet the very same people that’s causing immense pain and emotional distress among me and mines and so many other families, are truly enjoying their love-ones.

Why is it a double-standard? What if their family was shredded and stripped of what they have known for years and all of a sudden they children were taken from them! How would they feel?

The case of my grandchildren, being left in the system because Oklahoma DHS, ultimately put pressure on my daughter Jamira N May to give up. That was definitely wrong. It only hurt more. My daughter she needed help and they wouldn’t let her come home where i could help. It’s about Family. Yet in the eyes of foster care and the heartless social workers it’s more cynical behavior therefore causing such tragedy as this. My grandchildren are still in foster care and i am still going to court for them. This case has been dragged out for the past 4 years 10 months 3 weeks and 5 days. Totally an injustice and racially motivated.

I want everyone to know what is going on here in the state of Oklahoma in the family court and Oklahoma DHS, especially in my grandchildren’s case.

The family unit is valuable, since it is proven to be. Why else would the Oklahoma family court and Oklahoma DHS, continue to keep me and my grandbabies apart. When I have no felonies. Never been to prison. Military retired. I have my own source Income. I’m not on any public assistance. 

I’ve a Oklahoma residence that’s fully furnished and equipped and plenty of  room for my grandchildren. Not only that, my babies are on my rental lease.

My daughter she gave birth to 6 boys.  Out of the 6 babies only one of the boys are free and clear of foster care. The other 5 are still in the system. Jamira May,she has suffered truly an injustice at the hands of the Oklahoma DHS. Only if they would have agreed for her to return home with my grandbabies. We would be on our way to rebuilding our lives that they have destroyed for the past 4 years 10 months 3 weeks and 5 days. 

 The Director of Oklahoma DHS his name is Director Howard Hendrick and he needs to be fired and let go. He shouldn’t be allowed to hold office anylonger. With his actions on this matter i believe he is more dangerous to the Oklahoma families than good. Reason behind this is simply. He’s not helping the the families, He’s not taking an interest in the cases. He is only at the top of the food chain and making sure, that his family is well provided for.

Like I said, Family Values. He loves his family and would be devastated if something would have happened to his family. Director Howard Hendrick a church going person, yet he has failed many children and families causing severe emotional stress at the separation of their love-ones and mommies and daddies and grandma’s.

Director Howard Hendrick is behind all of this. He gives the order to do and therefore he is at fault for so much pain and not sleeping at night.

Our family because at the hands of this person, has truly caused a void in our family. We aren’t complete without our babies. My grandbabies has been in foster care, either a private home or a state group home because of the Director Howard Hendrick.

Alienating My Grandchildren

Since my grandsons were taken back in 2006 of March, the Oklahoma DHS has been commiting policy and procedures violations according to their hand book OAC.

Oklahoma devious and malicious acts in the case of my grandsons are an injustice to me and my family. Our civil and human rights has been violated.

Children deserves visitation and continuous contact with their family and yet my grandsons has not had that opportunity. My grandsons don’t deserve this. Our family doesn’t deserve this.

I have been fighting for my grandsons from day one. I have moved to Oklahoma. All i see here is everything but the right thing. It’s corruption. It’s racial. It’s Personal vendetta going on here. It’s threats as well. It’s Employee’s abusing their power of their job. Their position that they hold.

Since i have been here in Oklahoma I have yet to have on  regular basis visits with my grandsons. I am very interested in the the true reason behind these folks doing this. I want answers. Not a lie. The truth. My truth is – I’m me. They are racial driven. My wanting to visit with my grandchildren should not of had a negative respons as it has in the courts. This is wrong.

Me and my grandsons has always had an existing relationship before they were taken by Oklahoma dhs back in 2006. This is no way right at all.

In the court room i have been treated like dirt. The court continues to put off the case. I am continuing to spend money. The whole time my babies are still in foster care.

My family has been hurted long enough by this corrupt system of family courts and the Oklahoma DHS. The sytem is supposed to help the families and children. To strengthened them not destroy them and alienate the babies from the family. In the case of my daughter Jamira N May, where she relinquished her parental rights – only because it was told to her that I – had helped my daughter too many times and that she had to do this on her own. Well any  mother and grandmother would help their children and grandchildren especially when it came down to getting them out of the foster care system.

I have a rented home here thats available and fully furnished and equipped for my family and the courts denied my daughter to come home where i could help be a solution to this tragedy and put an end to this. Because the courts denied this, My precious grandbabies are still in the Oklahoma foster care system. Oklahoma DHS has had my grandsons for 4 years 10months 1week 1 day.

My daughter had just been released from prison and she needed her mothers’ help. So since the courts didn’t  allowed this to take place my grown daughter grew weary and gave up. She left her babies in the foster care system. My daughter gave birth to 6 boys, only her first 5 are still in the foster care system. That is so very painful.

Just for the record my daughter Jamira N May went to prison after her children were taken from her. It was unrelated to the children being taken by Oklahoma DHS. So my daughter she needed help and as a mother i was there to help her, but the court denied me giving assitance to my daughter.

Now since that has taken place, she is no longer in the case and i am going to court on my own. From what i have been told on many occasions that i am not apart of the case. They the case workwers  of DHS doesnot give me any information on my grandchildren. I don’t get the chance to see or visit with my grandsons. Not even hug them or hear their voices. This is hard on us. We are the family unit and its being painfully destroyed by the foster care DHS/DFS/DCFS/DSS all across the U.S by these agencies having so much power and It’s killing off the american families.

I believe in my opinion it’s another form of imprisionment. This isn’t right to destroy the families as the government has allowed this to take place.

The Department of Health and Human Services should re-construct another form of family intervention to help the persons that may come in contact with issues like this. For 1 – THE FAMILY UNIT SHOULD BE PRESERVED. For 2 – FAMILY UNIT  HOLDS  THE FOUNDATION. For 3 –  THE FAMILY UNIT IS ENRICHING AND HAS HERITAGE AND UNITY. For 4 – FAMILY NEEDS TO BE WITH FAMILY. For 5 – GRANDCHILDREN NEEDS THEIR GRANDPARENTS. For 6 – GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS ARE A MUST. For 7 -THERE SHOULDN’T BE NO ADOPTION UNLESS THERE IS NO FAMILY WHAT SO EVER TO TAKE THE CHILDREN.

With that having been said- I am here in Oklahoma and has no intentions on stopping my journey on pursuing this matter of my grandchildren being returned to me and my family where these boys belong.

What i have come across since in my journey is that the DHS system will do all it can to deter you from your hard and persistent work. They will say many many nasty things in court and try to get you to be out of character. But you must hold your peace. You see,  if one allows the system to make them so mad where they will just  give up, then they can get rid of your love-ones in my case my babies. I’m not doing that. I am a very strong woman and i will be here to the last.

Oh yes, it pains me that i haven’t seen my grandsons since 2-16-10, that was the last time. That’s very hard to deal with, being right here in he same state and city for some of my babies.

It’s a tragedy as it is that my babies my grandbaies are in the sytem and out of the home from the get go. But, for the DHS system and the family courts to keep us apart that’s another issue.

My grandchildren are my life, my world and because of this awful interruption of our lives and the separation: I work even harder to not to give up hope that this will soon be over. I pray continuously.

Oklahoma DHS and the Family Courts intimidated my daughter a young woman who had just been released from prison, But! Rest Assured, I’m not going away! The State of  Oklahoma took my grandbabies and they have a grandparent that will not rest til justice prevails. I’m a registered voter, I’m no felon, I have a 3-2-2 garage home, I relocated from Reno Nevada. I am here.

The motive for the State of OKlahoma for not returning my grandkids to date – Plain Racial, Serious Issues. It’s a personal vendetta against me.

I put everything on my life- I’m not going no where with out my grandchidren. As long as The State Of Oklahoma has my Grandchildren i am here.

WE ARE A FAMILY UNIT – FAMILY IS WHAT MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND – MY GRANDSONS ARE LOVED.

Family Values or Not? What’s wrong with OKDHS?

According to  the OKDHS  agency it’s moto is to help families rebuild their lives, to make them stronger. Okdhs  are supposed to keep families together not break them up.  With the situation that i am having with this state isn’t showing me any resolution to keeping the children together with their family. They are giving me a hard time. They haven’t let me visit the children, my own grandchildren, this is so disturbing it’s just horriffic i’m so tired, but i will not keep on pushing forward, because my grandsons are depending on me, their grandmother.

The way that i’ve been treated i can say for sure that they are not  believing in family values or trying to keep the families together instead they are doing all they can to adopt the children out. This is totally wrong. I just can’t believe this is happening to me. This is awful.

Grandmother’s Love For Her Grandchildren

11.01.09

The love that i have for my grandsons are 100% pure and i am a very strong woman. I am not leaving my grandsons in Oklahoma in there foster care system. My grandsons mean the world to me and they are my everything. Not a night that goes by that i don’t go into their rooms, i just look in and i even sometimes just sit and read in there as if i was reading to the boys. My grandsons are very special to me and they are my heart, my world. This is not only difficult  and confusing for them but as well as the same for me. We are family and we belong together. I am good for them. I miss my boys, they know that their grandmother loves them and that i ‘ve not left them. It’s just so confusing when we haven’t seen one another in months and what would a child think. So lord I just pray each and every day on this. I can’t go on with my life until my grandsons are back home with me, where they belong. Honesty and Truly belong with me. I love these  little boys they are my everything.