Farina Thompson; A Grandmothers’ Determination!

Sunday June 3 2012

As a grandmother, I came forth to do the right thing and get my grandchildren out of the Oklahoma Foster Care System. Little did I know that the State of Oklahoma would do all this to keep my grandsons in the states foster care system.

I’ve seen so much corruption,deception and crooked folks in these here unprofessional and unethical acts, It has blown me completely away. You would think that the court system would want to place the children back with their blood family and not have them in the foster care system any length of time.

Not in the case with my grandchildren. It’s been 6 long painful, frustration and daunting years. literally a living Nightmare!

It’s puzzling and disturbing from my point of view! Since Family should be with family. My grandchildren have been in the Oklahoma Foster Care System, since March 2 2006. The last time that I saw my grandsons were on 2-16-2010. It’s been over 2 years! That’s plum ridiculous! Just Cruel ! That’s just wrong and deliberately devious and corruption.

My daughter, after requesting / asking permission if she could return home with her mother, (ME), so that I can help her with her children. Reason being she had just been released from prison out there in Oklahoma. She had nothing– was starting all over from scratch. She became overwhelmed and gave up.

I moved from Reno Nevada. But First! I made several plane flights , then drove several times too, before I actually moved to Oklahoma. Which, I was there for 3 1/2 years before moving back home to Modesto, California.

You see! I love my grandchildren, they are my world and my life. for the last 6 years. I’ve been making sure to do what’s needed, because dealing with this Oklahoma DHS – Foster Care System. As long as I have been dealing with that state you have to become creative. Keep a positive mind and read up on the system as much as you can. The foster care system is meant to break the family that’s fighting the good fight. What I mean by that! They will do everything to scare you, so that you will not do or say anything at all what so ever. Via the News, Internet, Reporters,.

I know this because. I was slapped with a contempt of court charge where I had to pay for an attorney for myself.  When you start exposing the culprit! They get worried, believe me they do.I remember this one time I was before the judge and the DA she stated! Judge she has already getting an audience, she has over 42 views.

That’s when all kind of stuff started being mentioning in court.

As I am the maternal and biological grandparent to my precious grandchildren. I will not stop exposing them to the world, via, the news, blogs, you-tube, writing the legislatures and even the president and his wife. Each and every letter I receive I put them with the others.

I’ve complained to the Civil Rights Division of the DHHS I took it all the way to Washington DC. Though nothing was positive. Yet! I still have proof to show my grandchildren when that day comes and they ask me – Grandma! Did you fight for us? Or How come you didn’t come for us? I can be proud to tell them and show them everything that I’ve done to get them out and back home with me where, they are loved, wanted and missed.

My grandchildren! They aren’t forgotten! No! They aren’t. What has taken place with my grandchildren and how the Oklahoma Family Courts and the Oklahoma DHS has done to us nothing but an Injustice and those behind these vengeful acts should be held accountable for their actions.

Case # JD-06-180–  K# 20347104 -Case Name – MAY- BENJAMIN – DAVIS – WALKER –

The Judge — Associate District Judge Richard W Kirby. This judge has not done his job as he took his oath and was sworn in as a Civil Servant. His duties were to help those that come into his courtroom. Not to fail the family’s and the children that are counting on him. He’s wasn’t for the righteous, Yet! He was in favor of the Oklahoma DHS- therefore my grandchildren has remained in the states foster care system.

The state of Oklahoma has done so many wrong unethical actions in the case of my grandchildren it would take more than 20 pages to get it all down and maybe more.

I will continue to write my blogs and let the world know what is going on with the foster care system in the state of Oklahoma and what they have done to my grandchildren and our family.

How come they didn’t give me my grandchildren? Is beyond me. However it was unethical and an injustice, let me tell you that. But! let them tell it, It’s because I have a felony food stamp charge that took place in 1982- which I was 18.  That’s incorrect! I went into the Army shortly after that. Felons aren’t allowed in the Armed  Forces.

Everything that I’ve done to get my grandsons out of the foster care system was shot down and they would continue to put things off, that was in favor of me, the children’s maternal and biological grandparent.

In court it got so bad, they are so dirty and devious, that the Oklahoma DHS REQUESTED to have me taken – removed from my grandchildren case. That I wasn’t allowed to be in court. This request was done in Feb 2011 and the request was granted, by the Associate District Judge Richard W Kirby.

The even more shocking element to this is that I wasn’t present in court! The reason for that, was simply they had the court date a day in advance and I wasn’t notified of the change in venue. How is that for size? Isn’t that something? When I’m fighting for my only grandchildren!

The judge said from the beginning, that if I don’t like his ruling to take it to a higher court! That right there meant that he wasn’t ruling in favor of me the grandmother.

It didn’t matter that I came prepared. I moved to the mid west. Rented a nice 3 bedroom home that was over 2,000 square feet. Had all the boys rooms furnished and ready for them to come home. Also! didn’t need any assistance to care for and provide for my grandsons. No tax payers would have to shell out their hard-earned wages to help me support my daughters children! My grandchildren! No, I’m able and willing to care for every one of them.

Not only that! I am my grandsons maternal and biological grandmother. I love my grandbabies with all the blood that’s flowing through my body in my veins.

Children should be with family and not be shuffled and bounced around in the foster care system, especially when they have family that wants them.

My grandchildren, have had at least a dozen case workers. They don’t know what’s going on, they are only children and they know that they aren’t home and are continuously being moved about. My grandsons have been emotionally traumatized and alienated and isolated from their family.

That s certainly not in the best interest of the children! Yet! They are always quick to give the court that favorite statement. NOT only That – the other statement would be that of Every effort has been made to place the children with their maternal grandmother, which is nothing but an out right lie. Straight fabricated!

The courts action and that of the Oklahoma DHS  has been anything but professional.

Without a doubt this have been a Nightmare and very emotional to say the least.

Before I end, I’m asking everyone to please pray for me and my grandchildren, that this unexpected emotional and devastation of events in our lives be put to rest. For we have been going through this for the past 6 years and 2 months.

I thank you for your prayers and blessings. God Bless You and Yours.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I am just putting this out there to inform folks of this horrific ordeal – how the state can take your children and do what they want, so I just feel it’s right to let the world know of this tragedy that has struck my family. Not in a million years I seen this coming! I never though I’d be going through something as emotional and painful as this. My grandchildren! Oh! I hurt deeply! So deep down inside. The pain you can’t imagine the extent of this feeling.

So anyway,

Thanks Again,

Grieving Grandmother,

Farina Thompson

Grandsons! A Letter For You!!!!

Grandsons! Hi there! I love you and miss you all very much!

My very special grandchildren you are not forgotten! You are loved, wanted and missed!!

We have been separated since March 2 2006!!!!  Some 5 years – 11 Months – 3 1/2 weeks  almost 6 years!!!!!

Since you all have been in foster care! I want you all to know that I haven’t forgotten about you all. It’s not a day that goes by that I your grandmother, hasn’t missed you and thought about you boys. For you all are in my heart each and every day. 

Melvin, Michael, Mizael, Teriq and Eric— My dear and sweet grandsons. I just want to hold and hug you. Just take away all your pain and suffering from  being away from the family. I my hasn’t been the same since you all were taken away and put into foster care. I love you and I miss you even more.

My grandsons, I want you to know that the State of Oklahoma are the very reason that you all are not home with me. They refused to give me a home study of the Oklahoma rented home so that you all can come home with grandma.  Honey, you grandchildren mean the world to me. You all are in my heart! I continue to pray for our family! I’m prayerful and continue to have faith that everything  is going to be ok!

I can’t imagine all of the things that you children have been subjected to. Since you all have been in the Oklahoma foster Care System. I worry about you grandchildren each and every night. My grandsons, Grandma loves you all so much! You all have been in the Oklahoma Foster Care System since March 2 of 2006. It’s been a long time. Let me say my dear grandsons! I am broken up about all of this.

You children shouldn’t be in foster care! I have been fighting for you all the whole time! I just want to hold you and take away all of the pain. I love you Melvin! I love you Michael! I love you Mizael! I love you Teriq! and I love you Eric!! Your grandmother is here for you! My grandsons! It’s important for you to know that you have family that loves you and misses you dearly! You’re loved, wanted, and missed!

Melvin, Michael, Mizael, Teriq and Eric! My dear and precious and lovable grandchildren. I want you all to always know that you are loved, wanted, and missed! My heart continues to ache by the separation of us. No matter what you dear and precious and sweetheart, my grandchildren you have a grandmother that will always be there! I will never stop my journey to get you back home.

I am sadden from our very own government has let us down! We are born American Citizens and Born of this great country! And yet the family courts has let you grandchildren down! Has let our family down! It’s a shame how the family court system at the state level (government) abuse their power. Judge Richard W Kirby has let you boys down!

It’s because of the Judge and Oklahoma DHS that we haven’t seen each other in the past 2 years, since 2-16-2010. I want to see all of you. It’s in the Oklahoma ADM code that we are to have regular family visits while in the system. It’s wrong how Oklahoma has treated you children and that we have not had any regular visits. My grandbabies the system has failed you and our family.

Grandsons! I have not given up on you! I love you! Melvin! Michael! Mizael! Teriq! and Eric! Grandma’s life hasn’t been the same since you all were taken on March 2 2006.. I love you boys and you all forever will be in my

65 Months And Grandchildren Still Aren’t Home

65 months and my grandchildren still remains in the Oklahoma Foster Care System floating around from placement to placement.

Since 3-2-2006, my precious grandchildren have been in the Oklahoma foster care system.  They have been alienated from our family.  I haven’t seen my grandsons since 2-16-2010. Haven’t heard their voices.  Yet the court seems, this is in the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD!

How can family alienation be of good measure?

Foster Care isn’t good for any children. It has to be a better way than this. The folks involved in dividing and separating the children from their families and alienating on a continuous basis have no morals or ethical guide lines what so ever.

My precious grandsons has been alienated from our family for over 5.5 years. They were taken on 3-2-2006. Since they have been in foster care, we have not had any regular visitation. This is wrong! This isn’t right! What about the children who needs their family?

The Judge- Judge Richard W Kirby,  Tara Bone – DHS,  Asst DA- Jane Brown, Asst PD- Ryan Hauser and DHS Director- Howard Hendrick, they all should be HELD ACCOUNTABLE for their part in alienating my grandchildren and continuing to inflict pain upon them, by keeping them in the system for as long as they have.

The judge has denied my request to order DHS to do a home-study of my home inorder to adopt my 5 grandsons. The judge has dismissed me from any future court hearings in regards to my grandchildren’s case, at the request of DHS. The Judge granted the request. This was done on 2-8-2011.

My grandchildren are suffering in foster care. Being shipped, shuffled and shafted from one placement to the next. That’s terrible! It’s emotional for the children. I feel my grandchildren pain. I am right there with them.

This is an injustice! An investigation should be launched into the practice of how a judge and dhs handles these cases. This isn’t right at all and these folks are getting away with how they are treating the children and families.

DHS are supposed to be hleping the children and families? Right? Not inflicting damage or traumatizing the children even more! This system is broken.

My grandchildren has been in the foster care system since MARCH 2 2006. The State refuses to work with me to return my 5 grandsons.

I’ll say it again, that: The Judge- Judge Richard W Kirby,  Tara Bone – DHS,  Asst DA- Jane Brown, Asst PD- Ryan Hauser and DHS Director- Howard Hendrick, they all should be HELD ACCOUNTABLE for their part in alienating my grandchildren and continuing to inflict pain upon them, by keeping them in the system for as long as they have.

This is the State of Oklahoma, City of Oklahoma City, County of Oklahoma.

CASE# JD-06-180, CASE NAME- MAY, DAVIS, BENJAMIN, WALKER, MOTHER- JAMIRA N MAY-MCCOY. DATE CHILDREN WERE TAKEN- MARCH 2 2006.

Foster Care isn’t right for any child. Foster Care destroys children, they enter one way and then they are transformed. It’s the foster care system. It’s no good.

How can it be any good, For when I’ve been fighting for the longest to get my grandsons back home.

I have relocated from Nevada. I have a 3 bedroom, 2 bath, 2 car garage home. It’s over 2,000 square feet. I am not a felon, I’m a veteran, I have everything that’s needed to taken care of my 5 grandsons. Roof over their head and beds for each and every one of them. A Refrigerator full of food.  I’ve a washer and dryer. I MEAN! WHAT’S THE PROBLEM? ISN’T IT ABOUT THE CHILDREN?

65 MONTHS ! COME ON, NOW! IT’S CORRUPTION HERE IN THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA IN THE DHS FOSTER CARE SYSTEM AND THE JUDGE OVER MY GRANDSONS CASE. JUDGE RICHARD W KIRBY.

PLEASE PRAY FOR ME AND MY PRECIOUS GRANDCHILDREN AS WE ARE SUFFERING, HURTING AND HAS BEEN SEPARATED FOR QUITE SOME TIME. PLEASE PRAY FOR THEIR SAFE RETURN SO WE CAN MOVE ON WITH OUR LIVES. WE NEED CLOSURE.

Thank You and God Bless.

A grieving grandmother

 

 

Jamira N May- Mother forced to relinquish her parental rights

My daughter Jamira May, a young woman released from prison, dealing with Oklahoma DHS was driven to relinquish her parental rights. From the hands of the Oklahoma DHS case workers and Oklahoma DHS DA as well as the childrens’ attorney, caused my daughter to relinquish her parental rights by imposing such strict  requirements of her to get her children out of foster care. Due to the demands made on her and considering what she was facing, meaning her felonies that she has on her, it made it hard for her to get employment, housing and fully established enough to get her children. So with that mention, that’s where i come in and be there for my daughter to help her and my grandbabies and get them out of the foster care system. After all Isn’t that what we grandparents do?

Or so we thought! In the real world it would have worked,  unfortunately in the courtroom the folks denied that and refused to let Jamira return home with the children, because of that my daughter relinquished her parental rights to her sons and now she is no longer apart of the case. That took place 9/15/2009.

I am the maternal and biological grandmother, and i am doing what i can to save my family, these boys, my babies, are my blood and i love them as well as the whole family love them very much.

It’s the Family Unit and we deserve to live in peace without interruption. Yet the government, has allowed the DSS/ DHS/ FSS/DCFS- it goes by so many different names across the united states so whatever the name is in your part of the country, anyway the government are actually the ones behind the family being destroyed.

I have been going to court continuously on a regular basis. It hasn’t gotten any better. The people of the court and the staff are there to just do their job. What i am saying is typically, It’s not for reuniting the children with the families. In my grandsons case it is a racial thing going on toward me. Our civil rights and human rights has been violated.

Until January 2010 there was never a court approved visitation order for me to visit with my grandchildren. It took a month after that to get our family visit. My babies have been alienated from our family visits. Our family visits were stopped by Tara Bone, which she is the original case worker from back in 2006.

The family unit is truly valued. At least for some of us it is a way of life for us. To enjoy our family, children, grandchildren and friends. A family unit isn’t meant to be destroyed. God made it!  It’s puzzling at how these individuals here in this state of Oklahoma has ignored the true value of family and it’s foundation. Yet the very same people that’s causing immense pain and emotional distress among me and mines and so many other families, are truly enjoying their love-ones.

Why is it a double-standard? What if their family was shredded and stripped of what they have known for years and all of a sudden they children were taken from them! How would they feel?

The case of my grandchildren, being left in the system because Oklahoma DHS, ultimately put pressure on my daughter Jamira N May to give up. That was definitely wrong. It only hurt more. My daughter she needed help and they wouldn’t let her come home where i could help. It’s about Family. Yet in the eyes of foster care and the heartless social workers it’s more cynical behavior therefore causing such tragedy as this. My grandchildren are still in foster care and i am still going to court for them. This case has been dragged out for the past 4 years 10 months 3 weeks and 5 days. Totally an injustice and racially motivated.

I want everyone to know what is going on here in the state of Oklahoma in the family court and Oklahoma DHS, especially in my grandchildren’s case.

The family unit is valuable, since it is proven to be. Why else would the Oklahoma family court and Oklahoma DHS, continue to keep me and my grandbabies apart. When I have no felonies. Never been to prison. Military retired. I have my own source Income. I’m not on any public assistance. 

I’ve a Oklahoma residence that’s fully furnished and equipped and plenty of  room for my grandchildren. Not only that, my babies are on my rental lease.

My daughter she gave birth to 6 boys.  Out of the 6 babies only one of the boys are free and clear of foster care. The other 5 are still in the system. Jamira May,she has suffered truly an injustice at the hands of the Oklahoma DHS. Only if they would have agreed for her to return home with my grandbabies. We would be on our way to rebuilding our lives that they have destroyed for the past 4 years 10 months 3 weeks and 5 days. 

 The Director of Oklahoma DHS his name is Director Howard Hendrick and he needs to be fired and let go. He shouldn’t be allowed to hold office anylonger. With his actions on this matter i believe he is more dangerous to the Oklahoma families than good. Reason behind this is simply. He’s not helping the the families, He’s not taking an interest in the cases. He is only at the top of the food chain and making sure, that his family is well provided for.

Like I said, Family Values. He loves his family and would be devastated if something would have happened to his family. Director Howard Hendrick a church going person, yet he has failed many children and families causing severe emotional stress at the separation of their love-ones and mommies and daddies and grandma’s.

Director Howard Hendrick is behind all of this. He gives the order to do and therefore he is at fault for so much pain and not sleeping at night.

Our family because at the hands of this person, has truly caused a void in our family. We aren’t complete without our babies. My grandbabies has been in foster care, either a private home or a state group home because of the Director Howard Hendrick.