FAMILY INTERRUPTED! THEN DESTROYED!

SATURDAY JUNE 16, 2018

 

EVERYTHING WAS TAKEN FROM US!

A FAMILY NIGHTMARE!

WE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!

IT BEGAN ON MARCH 02, 2006–

Can you imagine not being with your precious love ones! – I’m speaking of your darling and much beloved grandchildren? Now add to that of you aren’t able to see them when you want or even, you are denied from continuous visiting’s.

Family! You’d think that the Agency! would want to help the families stay together. And not disrupt the children’s lives. One would assume that, But however, that’s not the way it went down. At least for my daughters’ children!

Tragedy! Pure Tragedy! You know I am still in disbelief over this painful  turn of events! It seems as if it was just yesterday that this has occurred.  Everyday I am reminded that my grandchildren have been betrayed and let down by the system!

Compliance! Doing what needs to be done in order to see that my grandchildren are returned home to where they belong! Well this is what took place:

I went from Sparks, Nevada to Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, then to Modesto, California. All out of love to have my only grandchildren be back in my life! Well It was relayed to me that THE JUDGE – RICHARD KIRBY, had informed the state foster care worker that I was never to get my grandchildren.

Going back and forth to court in OKC,OK – Oh! It was a nightmare! And that was putting it lightly. I was denied my foster care license as I was preparing to get certified. The agency’s DHS, had informed the placement agency that I wasn’t to be certified to get my grandchildren. Also I was even denied a home visit by the state to go over the home that I’d rented in Oklahoma. They even implied that I was a felon! Of course that was false! Also during that time I was even threatened with jail for speaking out to the media. Of which I had to get a lawyer for myself. Can you imagine?

It’s been years now and the pain is still with me, very much every bit of real and present! How can one heal from something like this? I can assure you that it’s not easy. I look at my grandchildren’s pictures so much till the picture is becoming fade and worn. Every day it hurts and I believe that I will forever live and relive that pain everyday of my life.

I’M A GRANDMOTHER! AND I CAME FORTH AS A GRANDPARENT WOULD AND SHOULD! RIGHT! WELL I DONE JUST THAT! BUT WAS DENIED AT EVERY REQUEST!

My grandchildren have been exposed to so much from being in that foster care system. I can’t even begin to imagine what they have experienced and exposed to! Certainly, I know that they were scared and frightened. They didn’t know what was going on. They knew that they were taken from their family and put all over the place in different placement and not having any regular visitation with their siblings! They were given medication – I know on one visitation with one of my grandchildren and during the visit he just was so drugged that he passed out. You could look at him and know that he was over medicated!

Can you imagine seeing your child or grandchild in that state? For me it was painful and emotional!

Our families are precious and we don’t need the state agencies taking our children and passing them out on to the ADOPTION PLATFORM! WHICH IS WHAT THEY DO. That needs to be put a stop to. Better Yet! The foster care system needs to be overhauled and repaired. Our children once they become involved with the foster care system they become emotionally damaged especially the longer that they are out of the home the worst they become.

This is the year of 2018 and my grandchildren were taken in the year of  2006. Can you imagine not being able to be in the lives of your little ones? My family has lost so much. We will never be able to get those years back. That’s all gone!

Well since then my grandchildren have grown and they all now have a different mind-set and my grandchildren as I once knew them are now all on different venues. They have all been in different homes and placement and pretty much away from their siblings!

My grandchildren are my heart and even though they aren’t the ages that they were when the ordeal first started! I still love them and nothing changes that love that I have for them.

A GRANDMOTHER’S LOVE IS PERMANENT AND NEVER FADES! A GRANDMOTHER’S LOVE IS FOREVER AND EVER GUARANTEED! ALWAYS AND FOREVER IN MY HEART:

MY GRANDSONS : I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU AND YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN!

MELVIN BENJAMIN JR

MICHAEL WALKER 4

MIZAEL WALKER

TERIQ MAY

ERIC DAVIS JR

SAMUEL MCCOY JR – WITH HIS FATHER

MY GRANDCHILDREN! MY GRANDCHILDREN, THEY ARE MY LIFE AND MY EVERYTHING! FOR SURE MY LIFE HAVE CHANGED FROM THIS ORDEAL! AND THAT’S AN UNDERSTATEMENT! I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME! I’M IN PAIN ON A DAILY BASIS FROM NOT BEING IN MY GRANDSONS’ LIVES!

IT HURTS AND HURTS REALLY BAD! THAT DEEP HURT AND EMOTIONAL PAIN THAT’S LODGED IN YOUR HEART! THAT YOU CAN NEVER GET RID OF!

FAMILIES ARE TO BE CHERISED!

TO MY GRANDCHILDREN IF YOU COME ACROSS THIS: I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH. YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN! YOU ARE FOREVER IN MY HEART! AND I AM SORRY THAT THE SYSTEM FAILED YOU AND US AS A FAMILY! I’M SORRY FOR ALL THAT YOU BOYS SUFFERED WHILE BEING IN THAT AWFUL FOSTER CARE SYSTEM! I’M PRAYING FOR YOU BOYS, NOW YOUNG MEN AND FOR US AS A FAMILY! YOU ARE LOVED AND NOT FORGOTTEN! LOVE ALWAYS YOUR GRANDMOTHER: FARINA THOMPSON

FAMILIES ARE TO BE CHERISED!

Not be destroyed and children adopted out or kept in foster care till they age out of the system!

The ordeal that my family faced and experienced should never be. I mean that no one should have to have their kids or grandkids in the system especially when you have a family member come forth and claim the children and be there for them. One should not be denied! Yet! That’s what happened to me.

I’m not a felon. Nor did I need the states money to raise my grandchildren. And I had even moved – relocated to OK! That wasn’t enough! I had ample space for all of my grandchildren. Everything was ready and put into place. Yet! Everything I done and requested was either denied, derailed, refused or ignored by the JUDGE AND DHS!

OKLAHOMA DHS AND THE JUDGE DESTROYED AND SHATTERED OUR FAMILY, OUR HOME, AND OUR LIVES.

We are changed forever from this intrusion!

Will we ever be able to heal and recover from this!

Will we ever be able to heal and recover from this?

My grandchildren, they have gone through so much since being in that foster care system! I’m truly heartbroken over it! I love them and I’m in pain over all that they have gone through and endured. All the emotions, pain and suffering they have been subjected to. Deeply scarred they are now, no doubt! I feel their pain as well!

THE SYSTEM ARE DESTROYING AND KILLING OFF OUR FAMILIES! CAUSING GREAT EMOTIONAL DAMAGE TO OUR CHILDREN! CHILDREN ARE TO BE LOVED AND CHERISED! NOT EXPLOITED BY THE DHS/CPS/FOSTER CARE AGENCY – OUR BABIES AND CHILDREN THEY NEED TO BE SAVED FROM THE SYSTEM!

SURELY CHANGE NEEDS TO COME! NOT ENOUGH HAS BEEN DONE TO CORRECT THIS VITAL ISSUE AT HAND.

EVERY DAY IS A JOURNEY!

 

FARINA M THOMPSON/ RENO NEVADA / SATURDAY JUNE 16, 2018

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Farina Thompson; A Grandmothers’ Determination!

Sunday June 3 2012

As a grandmother, I came forth to do the right thing and get my grandchildren out of the Oklahoma Foster Care System. Little did I know that the State of Oklahoma would do all this to keep my grandsons in the states foster care system.

I’ve seen so much corruption,deception and crooked folks in these here unprofessional and unethical acts, It has blown me completely away. You would think that the court system would want to place the children back with their blood family and not have them in the foster care system any length of time.

Not in the case with my grandchildren. It’s been 6 long painful, frustration and daunting years. literally a living Nightmare!

It’s puzzling and disturbing from my point of view! Since Family should be with family. My grandchildren have been in the Oklahoma Foster Care System, since March 2 2006. The last time that I saw my grandsons were on 2-16-2010. It’s been over 2 years! That’s plum ridiculous! Just Cruel ! That’s just wrong and deliberately devious and corruption.

My daughter, after requesting / asking permission if she could return home with her mother, (ME), so that I can help her with her children. Reason being she had just been released from prison out there in Oklahoma. She had nothing– was starting all over from scratch. She became overwhelmed and gave up.

I moved from Reno Nevada. But First! I made several plane flights , then drove several times too, before I actually moved to Oklahoma. Which, I was there for 3 1/2 years before moving back home to Modesto, California.

You see! I love my grandchildren, they are my world and my life. for the last 6 years. I’ve been making sure to do what’s needed, because dealing with this Oklahoma DHS – Foster Care System. As long as I have been dealing with that state you have to become creative. Keep a positive mind and read up on the system as much as you can. The foster care system is meant to break the family that’s fighting the good fight. What I mean by that! They will do everything to scare you, so that you will not do or say anything at all what so ever. Via the News, Internet, Reporters,.

I know this because. I was slapped with a contempt of court charge where I had to pay for an attorney for myself.  When you start exposing the culprit! They get worried, believe me they do.I remember this one time I was before the judge and the DA she stated! Judge she has already getting an audience, she has over 42 views.

That’s when all kind of stuff started being mentioning in court.

As I am the maternal and biological grandparent to my precious grandchildren. I will not stop exposing them to the world, via, the news, blogs, you-tube, writing the legislatures and even the president and his wife. Each and every letter I receive I put them with the others.

I’ve complained to the Civil Rights Division of the DHHS I took it all the way to Washington DC. Though nothing was positive. Yet! I still have proof to show my grandchildren when that day comes and they ask me – Grandma! Did you fight for us? Or How come you didn’t come for us? I can be proud to tell them and show them everything that I’ve done to get them out and back home with me where, they are loved, wanted and missed.

My grandchildren! They aren’t forgotten! No! They aren’t. What has taken place with my grandchildren and how the Oklahoma Family Courts and the Oklahoma DHS has done to us nothing but an Injustice and those behind these vengeful acts should be held accountable for their actions.

Case # JD-06-180–  K# 20347104 -Case Name – MAY- BENJAMIN – DAVIS – WALKER –

The Judge — Associate District Judge Richard W Kirby. This judge has not done his job as he took his oath and was sworn in as a Civil Servant. His duties were to help those that come into his courtroom. Not to fail the family’s and the children that are counting on him. He’s wasn’t for the righteous, Yet! He was in favor of the Oklahoma DHS- therefore my grandchildren has remained in the states foster care system.

The state of Oklahoma has done so many wrong unethical actions in the case of my grandchildren it would take more than 20 pages to get it all down and maybe more.

I will continue to write my blogs and let the world know what is going on with the foster care system in the state of Oklahoma and what they have done to my grandchildren and our family.

How come they didn’t give me my grandchildren? Is beyond me. However it was unethical and an injustice, let me tell you that. But! let them tell it, It’s because I have a felony food stamp charge that took place in 1982- which I was 18.  That’s incorrect! I went into the Army shortly after that. Felons aren’t allowed in the Armed  Forces.

Everything that I’ve done to get my grandsons out of the foster care system was shot down and they would continue to put things off, that was in favor of me, the children’s maternal and biological grandparent.

In court it got so bad, they are so dirty and devious, that the Oklahoma DHS REQUESTED to have me taken – removed from my grandchildren case. That I wasn’t allowed to be in court. This request was done in Feb 2011 and the request was granted, by the Associate District Judge Richard W Kirby.

The even more shocking element to this is that I wasn’t present in court! The reason for that, was simply they had the court date a day in advance and I wasn’t notified of the change in venue. How is that for size? Isn’t that something? When I’m fighting for my only grandchildren!

The judge said from the beginning, that if I don’t like his ruling to take it to a higher court! That right there meant that he wasn’t ruling in favor of me the grandmother.

It didn’t matter that I came prepared. I moved to the mid west. Rented a nice 3 bedroom home that was over 2,000 square feet. Had all the boys rooms furnished and ready for them to come home. Also! didn’t need any assistance to care for and provide for my grandsons. No tax payers would have to shell out their hard-earned wages to help me support my daughters children! My grandchildren! No, I’m able and willing to care for every one of them.

Not only that! I am my grandsons maternal and biological grandmother. I love my grandbabies with all the blood that’s flowing through my body in my veins.

Children should be with family and not be shuffled and bounced around in the foster care system, especially when they have family that wants them.

My grandchildren, have had at least a dozen case workers. They don’t know what’s going on, they are only children and they know that they aren’t home and are continuously being moved about. My grandsons have been emotionally traumatized and alienated and isolated from their family.

That s certainly not in the best interest of the children! Yet! They are always quick to give the court that favorite statement. NOT only That – the other statement would be that of Every effort has been made to place the children with their maternal grandmother, which is nothing but an out right lie. Straight fabricated!

The courts action and that of the Oklahoma DHS  has been anything but professional.

Without a doubt this have been a Nightmare and very emotional to say the least.

Before I end, I’m asking everyone to please pray for me and my grandchildren, that this unexpected emotional and devastation of events in our lives be put to rest. For we have been going through this for the past 6 years and 2 months.

I thank you for your prayers and blessings. God Bless You and Yours.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I am just putting this out there to inform folks of this horrific ordeal – how the state can take your children and do what they want, so I just feel it’s right to let the world know of this tragedy that has struck my family. Not in a million years I seen this coming! I never though I’d be going through something as emotional and painful as this. My grandchildren! Oh! I hurt deeply! So deep down inside. The pain you can’t imagine the extent of this feeling.

So anyway,

Thanks Again,

Grieving Grandmother,

Farina Thompson