Hello Everyone!
Hi I am Farina Thompson, grandmother to 5 precious and adorable grandsons, that were taken by the State of Oklahoma DHS/ foster care unit, some nearly 6 years ago on March 2 2006. My life and the lives of my grandchildren as well as the rest of our loving family will never be the same. Our lives have been shattered! The Hell that this agency – Oklahoma Department of Human Services/ Foster Care Division has put our family through has been incomprehensible. Just wrong! It’s an Injustice!
The Oklahoma Family Court System has failed my grandchildren. My grandchildren are in the system, going from one placement to the other because the system has failed my precious grandchildren. Isn’t it about Family? Helping the families and the children? It’s about strengthening the American Families! Not eliminating and destroying them!
My grandchildren, til this day remains in the Oklahoma DHS foster care system, they are suffering and has endured so much, while being alienated and isolated from their family and love ones. My grandchildren’s case – Oklahoma DHS/ Foster Care Case hasn’t been handled – processed correctly. It’s not been professionally processed. It’s Just Wrong! Wrong! You Hear Me? It’s Just An Injustice!
I’m here on this media site to let everyone know of what’s going on here in “The Good Ole Boy State” (from what I’ve been told of this name for this state) The State of Oklahoma.
I’ve written several articles before! I will continue to put this out there, til someone will take an interest, because this is very important, especially for me and my dear grandchildren! We have been treated wrong! But not only for us. It’s so many children that’s in the foster care system that doesn’t have anyone to go to bat for them. No one to speak for them. I feel from my own experience of having dealt with Oklahoma DHS – fighting for my 5 oldest grandsons. That this is a form of slavery – literally. Let me explain my reasoning for saying that!
1. First of all when the State government takes your love -ones and do away with them as they please with no insight of family member requesting to have the children placed with them, to get them out of the system.
2. The State government refuses to let the children have visitation from their biological grandmother.
3. The child has no contact with the family what so ever except through letters from their grandmother.
4. The children aren’t allowed to write to their family or call them.
5. The Judge refuses to order DHS agency to do a home-study.
6. The State agency denies the children their right to remain in contact with their family.
7. The State agency labels the children and put them on medication so strong that it affects the child.
8. I’ve contacted many political officials at the Oklahoma State Capitol no one would help or take an interest in my request.
9. Foster Care is Big Business -Big Money $$– Straight Revenue.
10. The Case workers – CASA Worker(s) – therapists – The Judge- Judge Richard W Kirby – DHS Attorney – Even some foster parents are in the circle to interrupt the reunification of the children with their family.
11. Oklahoma DHS has requested and been given approval by the Judge – Judge Kirby; to keep me out of court from further proceedings to get my grandsons out of foster care, this took place in February 2011.
Everything that I have just mentioned has happened to me in the Oklahoma Family Court under the Direction of the Associate District Judge Richard W Kirby.
Since I have been here in the State of Oklahoma, I’ve been told that this state doesn’t have Grandparents Rights! No One from what I can tell even wants to here anything about Grandparents Having rights to their Grandchildren. That’s especially true when the children are in the custody of the State. I have been preaching the Grandparents Rights Speech for the longest. However I haven’t gotten anywhere!
I am my grandchildren’s biological and maternal Grandparent. I am all they have out here in the State of Oklahoma. You see! I moved out to the midwest solely because of the DHS involvement in our lives. We have no family out here in Oklahoma. I only came out to this side of the map to take care of this matter with the Oklahoma DHS. They have my grandchildren my precious grandsons, Which they just don’t want to return them to our family.
My grandsons, they have had over 10 social workers; my grandchildren they are all separated; my grandchildren are on medications and they have been labeled. My grandsons are in both groups homes and foster homes. They are shuffled and shafted around in the foster care system just being bounced around like ping-pong balls. All the while being alienated and isolated from their family and love ones, their maternal and biological grandmother, which relocated from Reno Nevada.
I haven’t heard my grandsons voices since February 16 2010, nor have I hugged them or kissed. The last time I saw my grandsons was on that date of February 16 2010. Children alienation and isolation from their family is wrong! The children are already traumatized as it is from being in Foster Care. Don’t you think? I think that’s really cruel for the state and the family court judge to do this to my grandchildren, our family. Frankly It’s just wrong period, for any child to be alienated and isolated from their family while in the states foster care system.
I know every case is different! I am aware of that! But when the state has no reason to keep the grandmother away from her biological grandchildren for reasons just to satisfy the persons personal grudge against the Grandmother! I’m talking about me! Because that’s what is going on here in the case of my grandchildren.
Oklahoma family court judge Richard W Kirby, DHS Tara Bone, DHS Director Howard Hendrick, DHS Case Worker Betty Cosgrave- Camacho, DHS County Director Deloris Ferguson, and there are so many others involved with this case. DHS Attorney Jane Brown, DHS Public Defender for the children Ryan Hauser, all of these individuals are of affiliation with Oklahoma DHS.
I have so much paper work. Just files and files. I keep record and documentation on everything. This state has done so much wrong in the case of my grandsons. My grandsons should have been home by now. But Because of how they operate and to me they Make their laws as they go. Huh! Oklahoma is an awful state to get your grandchildren or love-ones taken. This place is terrible! My grandsons have suffered tremendously. I am feeling their pain too.
No one can imagine what I have gone through and continue to go through! The lost of my grandchildren and fighting for them. Not giving up Hope! For sure this is a LIVING NIGHTMARE! That’s without a doubt! Not being able to hug your grandbabies or love ones, not being able to see them or even being able to be apart of their lives. This is a TREMENDOUS AMOUNT OF PAIN AND SUFFERING!!!!
To all of you that have read this. Please pass it around for others to view if they are interested. Foster Care Isn’t a place for children, especially if they have family and love-ones to take them in. No-one can and will love and take care of your children and family like you can and will. Children deserves to be with their family members and not in the foster care system floating and bouncing around. How the judge will not authorise and order Oklahoma DHS to give me a Home- Study to prove my home is Fit and qualified for my grandchildren to come home! My grandbabies! My grandbabies! OH! Lord! That’s not right! Family is the most important part of the children. Without family! Who do you have? Oklahoma has done me and my grandchildren wrong! The people handling my grandsons case are not right! From the Judge on down.
Thank you very much for taking the time to read what I have to say about the terrible problem of foster care; and how the State of Oklahoma are treating my grandchildren in foster care and continues to alienate them from me and our family. My precious grandsons have been traumatized and emotionally damaged from this injustice. They have been taken away from their family and not allowed to have contact with us.
Laws need to be changed! At this rate so many children will be lost. As the children grow up and age out of the system. They are kicked out and have no place to go. By then they have no contact with their biological family. But the government seems to think it’s fine and ok. But they have gotten paid big money for housing them, labeling them and god knows what else the children suffer behind closed doors of the foster care system. Oklahoma DHS has not done their job! They are keeping my grandchildren from me! They have lied and falsified documents to look good in court. Oklahoma DHS are a horrible group of individuals! That’s my opinion. From what I’ve experienced! These folks are cold-hearted and heartless. Half of them if not more are in the wrong field of employment, for sure!!!
Please pray for me and my grandsons that we will be reunited. Keep us in your prayers. It’s truly appreciated!
Thank You and God Bless You and Yours.
A Grandmother that’s in pain,
Farina Maria Thompson
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